Mary [00:00:00]:
Okay, we are back for another interview on you can call me bossy. And this time I'm with a new friend, a very new recent friend. So we're gonna get to know each other even more on this call. My friend Kristen, who I met through a Facebook networking group, I think that I asked a question about creatine and you just. I loved the way you answered. And then I was like, I, okay, let's be friends. And then ever since then, we've just been, like, in each other's dms, just supporting each other and having each other's back, and it's been so nice. And then also, the big reason why I wanted to have you on the show was just because I see you.
Mary [00:00:42]:
I see you. The way you show up, it's powerful. It's unapologetic. It's in, for lack of a better term. But I think it's such a good thing, especially when you're marketing your business. It's in your face and you are just like, yep, I'm here and I have solutions for you. And I am not going to hide and I'm not going to play small. And everything about you can call me bossy is like, is that people probably are going to call you whatever they're going to call you, they're going to label you whatever way they want to label you.
Mary [00:01:09]:
And this show is about permission granted to not play small anyway, to keep on going to do what you're going to do, to be the powerhouse that you are and to not let anybody decide anything for you. So I just was like, I forgot that I had actually sent you an invite. And then I'm sure you just got busy and weren't able to sign up. And then one day I was on my walk and I'm like, I have to reach out to Kristen. I'm so proud of the way she shows up. And then I was. And you were like, I'll book it right now. And I was like, wait a minute, I already sent you the link.
Mary [00:01:42]:
And I was like, oh, this was a good idea that I had three months ago. I'm so glad that I followed up. So can you just introduce yourself to everybody? Tell everybody who you are, what you do, how you support. Yeah. And the end, we'll talk about how they can follow you and all that stuff. But yeah.
Kristin Reed [00:02:00]:
Yeah. Well, thank you so much for having me. My name is Kristin Reed. I'm a board certified registered nurse, a certified health and wellness coach, and a women's health and nutrition expert. My business is nursing Your way to wellness. And I help ambitious midlife women really discover lasting health from the inside out using my 4M framework, which is mindset, meals, movement and me time. So as you can see, we really take a very holistic root cause approach. My practice is very much based on functional medicine.
Kristin Reed [00:02:32]:
So we're leaving no stone unturned to really get women who are in the thick of like, perimenopause menopause in the thick of like, is this all there is in life? And help to really feel their most vibrant and strong, strong and confident selves.
Mary [00:02:49]:
Wait, tell me more about that. Because I love that mindset is a huge part of this. You know that this is like such a huge part of what I am such an advocate for. I think that mindset is everything. But to talk about mindset in regards, to relate in relation to health is huge. And I have a story to share about my dad, who, he had sinus cancer years and years ago. And he told me way back in the day, before mindset was a thing, before like meditation was even mainstream. I remember him showing me his little apple shuffle and he had, he was like, oh, I don't think you want to use this because all that's on there is.
Mary [00:03:29]:
And he pauses and he goes. So I believe that you can heal yourself from the inside out. So there's meditations on there that I listen to on the train and to work. And I remember that all the. I remember that now that if he was here and seeing me do this work, I think he'd be so, so proud. But I love that that's part of your framework. But the part I would love for you to speak into a little bit more is what you said about is this all there is? I've never heard anybody say that before, but it made me feel like, oh my God. Yes.
Mary [00:03:58]:
Yes. What? Tell me more about that.
Kristin Reed [00:04:01]:
Yes. So I see women often in their 40s and 50s who just feel like this is like the downhill part of life. This is just part of being older. All the symptoms they're experiencing, unexplained things, things that they're feeling very gaslit about from their, their doctors and their medical professionals. Things that are just being poo pooed as, like, this is just part of aging, this is part of menopause. They just feel like this is it. You kind of just like. And this is, you're getting kind of like pushed to the side for all the 30 and you know, 20, 30, 40 year olds.
Kristin Reed [00:04:33]:
And now this is like my prime is over and I'M on a mission, as I see every day actually come to fruition, to help women feel like they can actually feel like this is the best chapter of their life. So really regaining that control, that purpose, and putting themselves first for possibly and often the very first time in their life. They've raised kids, they've taken care of elder parents, or maybe they still currently are. They've always felt this pull with their career. Maybe they're business owners. A lot of my clients are business owners or executives. And so we kind of turn the page to say, now is your time, like, what do you want? Health and wellness. And because it's all connected in life, like, let's, let's take an audit and just, you know, zoom out a little bit.
Kristin Reed [00:05:20]:
Are you happy with where you're at? And if not, let's make some changes together.
Mary [00:05:25]:
Oh, I love that. It's such a good way to be. Like, no, this is not all there is. There's more. There's a whole other level that you can reach if you want to. And I think that that is know there's a lot of stories and programming that gets passed down to, especially for women that it's kind of like, oh, you raised your babies, now you're done. And that was, you know, that's a survival piece from generations ago. So now women who are in their 50s and 60s here and they still see, huh, I'm still feeling like I have more to do.
Mary [00:06:00]:
I still feel like there's another level for me here. I still feel like there's more. And especially I have a couple clients who are single women in their 60s, right? And not because their significant other passed away, but because they were single moms at a younger age and they had to hustle and grind down to figure out how to live with as a single mom. And now their kids are having their own lives and they're like, shit, what about me? Right?
Kristin Reed [00:06:32]:
That's exactly.
Mary [00:06:32]:
And so then they're like, what do I do now?
Kristin Reed [00:06:35]:
And I just have a quick story to tell you. I remember vividly my sisters and I remember when my mom turned 40. First of all, I felt like that was so old. I remember the party my dad threw for her. I remember the pink pants she wore. I remember everything. We made poster boards back in the day, 20 something, 30 years ago, we made poster boards and we all drew on it. And our poster board, my mom's name is Ursula, said, lordy, lordy, urs is 40.
Kristin Reed [00:07:00]:
And then over the hill, it was like, that was the saying over the Hill. So we talk about this now as I'm turning 40. It's like, remember when mom was 40, and it was like, that was it. She was over the hill. It was like, that was like she was past her prime, to your point. And that was kind of it. It was like, okay, it's all downhill from here. And so we've changed the narrative a lot, I think, in the last few decades, but I'm on a mission to.
Kristin Reed [00:07:25]:
To really ride that. This really can be the best chapter of your life. Yeah. Yeah.
Mary [00:07:30]:
I love that so much. Oh, yeah. And I. So. And I'm 42. I just turned 42, and I was like, I still feel like. I think I still made the right decision to not be a mom yet. Like, I'm still trying to figure it all out.
Mary [00:07:44]:
I'm still, like, I'm still a kid.
Kristin Reed [00:07:46]:
Yeah.
Mary [00:07:47]:
At heart, I still feel super young. So I'm like, oh, I can't imagine so many things that were expected. Expected of women to be by 40, you know, when I was a kid. So, anyway, okay, so my question to you, my first question, I guess my second question now is, what did you think about the name of the podcast when I asked you to be on? What came up for you? What were you thinking?
Kristin Reed [00:08:12]:
Yeah, my initial thoughts, kind of unfiltered, were the connotation of being a boss, owning your own business, and being perceived as bossy and kind of, like, outspoken and extroverted and sort of that dichotomy in a sense, of. Of what women are perceived as when we are standing in our truth and speaking our. Our mission to the world. So, yeah.
Mary [00:08:39]:
And did it bring up, like, were you, like, initially, right away feeling powerful, or did you initially be like, oh, that's a. That's a touchy subject? Or did you have any experience with the word bossy growing up or. Or too much or too driven or too direct or any of that?
Kristin Reed [00:08:57]:
The word bossy itself wasn't something that I like right away related to, but definitely the driven, ambitious. In my world. It was always told to me, like, you're always doing so much. You're always, like, you know, have so many things in the air, and you're always, like, striving and that kind of thing. So it was put maybe a little bit worded a little bit differently, but I totally can relate to that idea of bossy, for sure.
Mary [00:09:22]:
Yeah. And did you. So tell me about your nursing career. Did you ever come up against anybody being like, hey, dial it down a little bit, or, hey, you're too much of this, and you had to overcome that.
Kristin Reed [00:09:36]:
I would say, in my nursing career later on, once I realized, kind of taking a step back, once I realized there was so much more I could do for my patients, like, I had always had a love for health and wellness. I was always the. Like, I was the teenager in high school who was, like, reading the Zone Diet and, like, eating, like, greens, and everyone else was eating cookies. And, like, I always had that side of me, and it was very fascinating to me. So moving forward into my nursing career, I saw there was so much more I could offer my patients rather than just a prescription and pushing them out the door. And I knew, like, I could teach them so much about nutrition and lifestyle changes and habits and things like that. And so once I formed my business and it took off and was very successful in health coaching and preventing people from hopefully ever going into the hospital. And once coworkers and my manager and people found out about, that's when I could hear some of those things of, like, kind of who, you know, again, said in a little gentler way, but kind of, who do you think you are? Yeah.
Kristin Reed [00:10:40]:
You know, you're at the creme de la creme. Like, you have. You started your career at the Cleveland Clinic. You are at, you know, a top Boston hospital. People work their whole lives to be here. Here you are on a.
Mary [00:10:52]:
Why are you gonna.
Kristin Reed [00:10:54]:
Helping these patients literally come back to life, and you, like, you're doing what you're going off on your own, so. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely heard some of that. Yeah.
Mary [00:11:05]:
And so did you have any support since mindset is such a big part of your framework? Was there. Do you remember any particular time that you had to just be like, you know what? I'm gonna go do what I want to do. You guys are gonna call me, you're gonna say what you're gonna say. But was there anything. Any particular moment, any particular practice that you leaned into to really help yourself with the. Like, not. Not listen to them, not hold yourself back?
Kristin Reed [00:11:30]:
Yeah. Truthfully, I think in my practice, seeing women get such amazing results that lasted far beyond our coaching together, that was the proof enough I needed to keep me confident in my path. But there were moments definitely where, you know, people would question it, and they would, you know, talk about the perks of being a bedside nurse. You know, what about you can just go home and, like, forget about it. You can take pto. You can have sick days. You know, there's all. There are lots of benefits.
Kristin Reed [00:11:58]:
Right. And I knew in my Heart like my business was because at that time I was still doing both. So I would, I would do my, my practice and then go to the hospital. I created the wellness program as well as well at Brigham and Women's Hospital. So I saw all aspects, the wellness program, bedside nursing itself. And I think just like my heart was always back at my practice, like that's where I felt the most fulfilled. Seeing these women really upgrade their entire life, that was just the fuel that kept propelling me forward. No matter what the outside world was saying to me.
Kristin Reed [00:12:32]:
Trying to put me in a box, really. I think that's, that's the thing society wants to say. You're a nurse, this is what you do. This is what, this is what a nurse looks like. Especially 10 years ago or, you know, 17 years ago when I first became a nurse, it was unheard of that you would ever leave the bedside to start your own practice. That was so risky. And just like, you know, people were looking at you like you had foreheads. Right.
Kristin Reed [00:12:57]:
And so society doesn't like, and people don't like when we are in that gray area. And that's what it was for me. It was like I had the best of both worlds. And then when I resigned and just took my practice full time, it was like, well, how do we like label you? How do we put you in this other box? That's an interesting thing to wrestle with too.
Mary [00:13:20]:
I know that when I, when I went full time in my business and I had to step away from a career, a 15 plus year career of events and marketing, logistics and sponsorships, it was like, it was like I had a onesie on and I had to unzip the onesie and step out of the onesie and never put it back on. And it was quite the experience to do that. And then also that conversation, having that conversation with people about, well, what are you doing now? What do you mean what are you doing now? And so it's like a decision you had to make. That's what it sounds like to me. You had to make a decision of like, I'm not going to let people trying to put me in a box keep me stuck and small.
Kristin Reed [00:14:08]:
Sure, yeah, yeah. And at that time my practice was successful. However, there was also the big elephant in the room, which was the study paycheck, the, you know, pension and all of that. And I was like, what am I doing? Like, am I, you know, am I crazy for doing this? And then after about a week of resigning, I said, this is the best thing I've Ever done. I've never looked back. Of course, there's aspects I miss of it, but, yeah, definitely, yeah.
Mary [00:14:33]:
How long have you been in your own business now?
Kristin Reed [00:14:35]:
I've been in my practice for eight years.
Mary [00:14:38]:
Wow.
Kristin Reed [00:14:39]:
Yeah. Wow.
Mary [00:14:40]:
And have you had ups and downs that you've had to kind of manage yourself through? And if so, what tools have you. Do you have any daily practices or tools that you lean into to help yourself not give up, not quit, just keep on going?
Kristin Reed [00:14:56]:
So many ups and downs. I was just reflecting on, like, there were some moves that I laugh at now. Like, what was I thinking? Right. But like any business owner, I was putting myself out there, and I was passionate beyond belief about helping people optimize their health and wellness and whatever that meant. Different offers, different services, things that I'm like, oh, what? You know, that was not the best move. But you learn. And that's. That's the thing is, I think, like, taking action and not just being frozen and paralyzed from thinking through it is a big lesson I've learned.
Kristin Reed [00:15:30]:
So I always force myself to kind of take an action and pivot from there. But don't just sit in the thought thinking that the. The thought process. Because I could be an information gatherer where I just want to keep staying safe in my bubble and, like, listening to podcasts and reading books and, you know, talking to mentors or whatever. Yeah, yeah, consume, Exactly. Because that feels safer than actually putting myself out there. So that's definitely a lesson I've learned. I have lots of practices.
Kristin Reed [00:15:56]:
I like to say I walk my talk. So for me, like, breath work, journaling, gratitude journaling, but also just freestyle. I like to call it rage on the page, too, where I'm just kind of getting things out of my brain onto paper. I do a lot of visualizing, too, and really reassessing again, always saying, like, does this serve me? Does this support my goals? Does this support the life I'm trying to create? How can I serve my clients better? What's in most alignment for me? So kind of always having this audit process also helps keep me on my most true path forward.
Mary [00:16:36]:
Oh, I love that. You just said so many magic words for me, Visualization, which is a huge, huge one because, and I've said this before, if you do not put an address in the gps, the car doesn't know where to take you. So the second, like, your mind is a. Is a. Oh, my God. I'm going to say groundhog, but that's not what I mean. Hound dog or. Oh, my God, what am I trying.
Mary [00:16:58]:
The dog that hunts. Hunts for things. I can't think of it right now.
Kristin Reed [00:17:04]:
Yeah.
Mary [00:17:05]:
Oh, my God. Is it a hound dog? Okay, I've said it before, and if somebody's listening, they're like, Mary. So it's like you're giving it something to sniff out with those visualizations. You got to give your mind somewhere to go. But journaling. You said journaling. And one of the things I always say to my clients is journaling in your head is not journaling.
Kristin Reed [00:17:27]:
Yeah, yeah.
Mary [00:17:28]:
Get it out of your head. Do you have any scientific. Off the top of your head, any scientific information or details or research on, like, when you actually are writing down?
Kristin Reed [00:17:41]:
Yeah, there's definitely proven studies over decades that show the power of literally getting it out of our brain on a paper and writing it. The act of actually writing, not even typing, but actually writing, like pen to paper, helps us to. Again, to your point about visualization, helps us to kind of buy into it. It makes it more real, it makes it more tangible. Something that's actually achievable. And the second part of it is the neuroplasticity. So, you know, forming like, new brain pathways, new neuron and synapses and things like that, literally creating a new path forward. Like, I grew up where it wasn't really.
Kristin Reed [00:18:21]:
You didn't really take risks. Like, we grew up very poor. It was like you were safe. You know, you stayed in a. In a 9 to 5 job and that kind of thing. So that was like my brain's path forward. And my. Through some of these mindfulness practices, really forging these new paths left and right and all over the place of saying, okay, we can do this, we can do this.
Kristin Reed [00:18:41]:
Instead, this feels good. Let's go this way. Let's keep forging this path. That wasn't. That wasn't there before. So definitely, definitely lots of research on it, which is. Is very powerful.
Mary [00:18:51]:
I know there's a lot of research. I'm just really bad at talking about the research. So since you are. You are a healthcare provider, I figured it was better coming out of your mouth than mine. And also, I just want to reiterate what Kristen is saying about all the things that I preach all the time. And it's not just me, people. It's real and it's science, and it actually helps. And it's important.
Mary [00:19:15]:
And consistency is really important. It's really important that you're not just doing mindfulness work once in every three weeks. It's not gonna make a difference. Right.
Kristin Reed [00:19:27]:
I'm sure you, you've said this before, too, but I like the, the term monkey mind and. Right. Our mind can just go haywire. Right. And if we don't have something, like you said, that gps, that North Star, something to give it to, to grasp onto, it can just be all over the place. Especially with being, you know, a business owner and a boss is like the imposter syndrome. It can go crazy saying, like, I'm going to shut this all down. Who am I? This isn't working.
Kristin Reed [00:19:54]:
No one wants that. You know, you can just catastrophize for days on end. So I think it's really important that we give our minds something to realistically hold on to.
Mary [00:20:04]:
Yeah. And so important. Something to just kind of ground us every day. And that why am I doing this? Why am I here? But this isn't just about people who are building businesses. This is also for the person who is trying to make a difference. If you're a corporate woman as well, if you're trying to, if you have your eyes set on, you know, wherever your path may take you, if it's that C suite, if it's a leadership position, if it's a certain team within the company, the having that goal in mind, having that vision in mind, and then working on it every day to help you, a new position that really would light you up.
Kristin Reed [00:20:42]:
Up.
Mary [00:20:43]:
So it's really, really important.
Kristin Reed [00:20:46]:
Absolutely.
Mary [00:20:47]:
I want another question that I had for you is, what do you think? Oh, I'm going to ask you this one first. I'll remember. I'm crossing my fingers to remember the other one. You kind of started to talk about this, but can I just want to ask you and let you riff on it, what is your take on failure?
Kristin Reed [00:21:06]:
I don't really believe in failure. I believe, like. And so many times in my business, I could have said I failed there. I failed with that. I just think they're all learning opportunities. And I know it sounds kind of cheesy, but it's true, especially in business. Whatever path you're on, I think as long as we keep going, we keep moving forward in some way and learning from it. I don't think it's failure.
Kristin Reed [00:21:29]:
Failure to me would be like you feel like you failed and you kind of give up and you kind of sit back and stay quiet and stay, you know, in a comfortable bubble, because that is safe. Right. So for me, it's always learning. It's pivoting, it's saying, okay, that didn't work. That's actually good news. Now I know it's one less option for me. I have to pick the other options forward. So for me, it's.
Kristin Reed [00:21:52]:
I don't really believe in actual failure.
Mary [00:21:54]:
I love that. I agree. I didn't want to give you any beginning to that, but I think that I'm thinking about a lot of my clients will play small, hold themselves back, especially women who are a little bit in that, like, 50s, 60s age range. They just have. They didn't grow up with the audacity like I did. Right. Or you did. And so I think we're interesting.
Mary [00:22:19]:
We're in an interesting life because we were before the Internet and after the Internet. So the Internet came kind of gave us a certain kind of permission slip. And that cusp of social media gave us this permission slip during those particular years of our life when it was like, oh, I want to express myself. Oh, and here's a tool that will help me not only have access to how to do that, but also give me permission to do that. Right. Starting with. I'm sure you were on MySpace when we were like, you were creating just the mindset, mindspace homepage with colors and music, and it was just a way to express yourself. And there's a generation of women who never even.
Mary [00:23:01]:
That was not part of their world. So there's a world of women that I work with, and I'm sure the same for you, that failure holds them back from getting started, from being visible, from letting their voices be heard. And this is the coming back to that umbrella of that too muchness, worrying about being too much, and whether it's like, when they're taking control of their health finally and taking control of their life finally, or if they're building a business or if they're having a second career, whatever that might look like. What would you say to somebody who's like, well, if I fail, what will they say? Or anything like of the. Along those lines?
Kristin Reed [00:23:46]:
Honestly, I think, like, people are always going to have something to say, so you might as well be living a path that feels fulfilled for you and feels joyful and aligned for you than not, because they're going to talk no matter what. So I just think, like, try to mute that noise a little bit. And I think a lot of it, too, Mary, is that it's perceived failure. Right? Our mind doesn't often know the difference between reality and what we're kind of conjuring up in our mind. So it's that perceived failure. And again, it feels so, so safe to just stay in, like, the devil we know. Right? And so to take that leap and I think, again, just kind of reframing and having that confidence to step out and say they're going to talk no matter what, I might as well be doing my thing in my one life again. We zoom out, and it's like this one life we have to live.
Kristin Reed [00:24:37]:
Tomorrow's not promised, and. And all of this kind of cliche things, but it's so true. So are we going to, like, be on our deathbed saying, I lived mediocre. I kind of listened to what everyone said that limited me and stayed in my little safe zone? Or, like, no, I went out there and, like, I chased my dreams and I, like, stood up for what I believed, and I spoke my truth, and I shared things that inspire the next generation and other women who are peers and colleagues saying, yeah, she's inspiring me to. To speak up and to show my full colors as well.
Mary [00:25:11]:
Yeah. And I think I'll. I'll just add to that and the opportunity for you to break generational patterns.
Kristin Reed [00:25:20]:
Yes. Yes. Generational shifting. Like. Like, love that. Love that phrase. Love that idea. I feel like I'm intentionally trying to do that every day.
Mary [00:25:30]:
Yeah. Same, same. It's like, what. What I'm doing is so different than anybody in my family. It's still a hard thing for my mom to get on board with, but she's supporting and she's helping and she's got my back, and that's really, really great. But I think it took her a little while to do that, to get there. But just because she didn't know, she doesn't know. Right.
Mary [00:25:57]:
And so then that's where it's like, you're talking about stepping in. And I heard you say before, action. Action is always the answer. Right. I say intentional action. So what is the intention behind that action? Because you don't want to take action from a fearful place. You don't want to take action from the place of, I'd rather just be super safe in my bubble. You want to be taking that action from what you were saying of.
Mary [00:26:21]:
You're gonna say that shit anyway. So I'm just gonna go for it, and I'm gonna make it happen. So I'm gonna put myself out there and go for it. So action. I'd love to know. You said this before, and this was my other question. What does putting yourself out there look like for you?
Kristin Reed [00:26:40]:
Putting myself out there to me means speaking my truth and sharing, like, my mission, my values, how I can serve women. And I think a reframe that often has helped me, especially in my earlier years, is if I stay quiet about what I know, I can help support women to do and to become and to evolve. I'm doing them a disservice because they could use more women like us who are really there to support them and to see them and to validate their feelings and to help them reach that next level. So for me, it's really showing them having my voice be heard to say, I'm here, I can help you. Come with me. Right.
Mary [00:27:20]:
Yeah. I'm curious to know if you can get even more specific about what that meant. Like when you were saying share your truth, do you mean just posting on Facebook, were you like, at the hospital? Like, so you said Brigham's and Women's earlier. I know what that is. My listeners may not, but it's one of the biggest hospitals in Boston. I was born there.
Kristin Reed [00:27:44]:
Yeah.
Mary [00:27:45]:
And so I know it very well. It's a bit. It's a big deal. Big deal hospital in Boston. So what would. When you were working in the quote, unquote, corporate world where you were working for somebody else, and now that you're working for yourself, what specifically does. Using your voice, sharing your truth, putting yourself out there, what does it look like? And I'm asking specifically because I know there's women listening right now that are like, what does that look like? How can I do that more?
Kristin Reed [00:28:14]:
I love that question. And I think my answer is talking freely about, like, what I'm doing and what's lighting me up to anyone, like, in conversation, naturally not, you know, pushy and salesy, just naturally talking about it because it's part of who I am and it is what I'm so passionate about. So anyone from, you know, my manager, the physician, I'm standing alongside the person at the checkout counter, my friends and family who are like, hey, what is this business you're doing? I mean, anyone. And yes, posting on social media, sharing with my local community. So for me, it's just talking about and sharing, you know, what I do and why I love it. And again, how I could help people.
Mary [00:28:55]:
Yeah. And I think that, that the mindset or the, the decision that you make before you start using your voice in that way is I don't really care if this bothers you or I'm going to be unapologetic about talking about this thing that I really, really love. Right. It's almost like, are. Do you apologize before you tell somebody about a new pen that you found that you really love or a journal that you Love. Why would you hold. That's a solution. Like, you're telling somebody, oh, my gosh, I love this journal.
Mary [00:29:24]:
You're looking for a journal. I have a solution. Here's a journal. And then so for people who it's. Yeah, that's how it's like, why are you holding yourself? Why are you not telling me about your damn journal? I love journals.
Kristin Reed [00:29:37]:
Yes. I believe, like, the world needs each of our special gifts that are so unique. So some people might say, oh, but it's saturated. You know, that's. For those of you listening, you might say, like, oh, I really want to, you know, be a therapist, but there's so many out there. I really want to be a health coach, but, you know, that's oversaturated. Yes. But it's not you, and it's not your unique perspective and approach and all these things.
Kristin Reed [00:30:00]:
So first of all, that's something that I want to share is. Is we need each of our unique gifts. And the second part is, like, we kind of alluded to before, but if we're not sharing, we're not being that influence that we can be for other women, too. So we have to have. Have a voice, be able to share and be a role model, and I think be a voice for other women as well. So.
Mary [00:30:24]:
Good. And I think that this also relates back to what you're doing with your clients, because I think that giving yourself permission to be on a healthy journey is so important, because I think that it can get intimidating, it can get scary if you start sharing that you're on this journey with people and they start either being judgy or wondering, why. Why am I not seeing changes? Or, hey, you looked super healthy six months ago, and now have you fallen off the wagon? And, like, it's. It's a. It's also imposter syndrome just to take on something new, like revamping your entire wellness.
Kristin Reed [00:31:08]:
Absolutely. I think there's a big level of trust there and to kind of take that leap. Yeah, that self trust. Exactly. And to just kind of put one foot in the front of the other, making one change at a time, taking one day at a time, and kind of trusting the process. There's definitely some of that there.
Mary [00:31:28]:
Yeah, I love that. And is there. When you talk about mindset, is there a specific. Can you talk us to us a little bit about how your approach to mindset in your framework and maybe even the me, too? The me time. The me time that you talked about as well?
Kristin Reed [00:31:44]:
Yeah, definitely. So for me, mindset, how I Think about it and how I explain to my clients is your beliefs, your perspective, your attitude. And what I always say is I can teach you, guide you, support you till I'm blue in the face. I can do it all day long. But until you truly believe in your core that you're capable of change, you're capable of being this next version of yourself, nothing will stick. You might see some progress, you might, you know, take a few steps forward, but then once we're done coaching, you're going to go either right back to where you were, where your comfort zone was, or even further back. So you have to believe that you're capable of that change, that you're worth it, you're able to have that. It's for you too.
Kristin Reed [00:32:31]:
Because you might look at everyone else and say it's easy for her, she's naturally thin or she has more money, or we have all these excuses, these reasons, right? So the mindset has to be solid. I always relate it to a house built on cement versus a house built on straw. That mindset has to be rocks solid so that then we can start building all the other aspects of the forum framework on top of it. Because again, we can talk about nutrition, we can dive really deep into nutrition, targeted nutrition for your unique, you know, based on your lab work, based on your symptoms, your goals, any health diagnoses, things like that. But that's just kind of putting icing on top of a cake that's crumbling. So it's not going to stick. If we don't have the foundation in place, then we go to me time, which is at the end. And that's self care, stress management and sleep hygiene.
Kristin Reed [00:33:25]:
And similar to mindset, we have to bake these habits into our everyday to truly, you know, nourish ourselves and really care for ourselves. And it's much, it's far beyond like a spa day and a glass of wine at the end of the day. And actually as much as I love all those things, I actually, actually deter my, my clients from thinking about it in that way. I see it as boundaries, communication, delegating baking rituals into our day. That's 2 minutes, 5 minutes, 10 minutes, really easy, accessible practices. Sleep hygiene. So we are guarding our sleep with everything we have. We have a non negotiable bedtime, we have a bedtime routine just like a little kid, like I have a toddler, we take a bath, we brush our teeth, we read a book.
Kristin Reed [00:34:13]:
Having that bedtime routine for yourself so we can really engage that sympathetic nervous system, calm ourselves down, get ourselves into sleep again. These are all foundational practices so that we can start building on top of these. But these have to be rock solid before we. I call it too majoring in the minors. I have a lot of new clients who will come and say, okay, tell me like what supplement I should take or what, you know, pill, or what are your thoughts on this new hack? Or I saw on Instagram this new thing about like a vibrating plate that you can use to lose weight. With all the love in my heart, I just say let's get the foundations down first and then start talking about all these other things on top of it. So that's, that's my perspective on it.
Mary [00:34:57]:
Yeah, that's so good. And I'm just thinking about, I'm not a business coach, but I support a business coaching program and oftentimes it's like day one, people are in and they're like, okay, how do I sell?
Kristin Reed [00:35:08]:
Yes.
Mary [00:35:08]:
How do I get, how do I get a client? It's like, well, who, who's your ideal client? I don't know. Well, what are their pain points? I don't know. Well, what is it that you're specifically that you're going to, what is the solution? What are you actually going to help them with? I don't know. And that's exactly what it is. If you try and build a business just like you said, on a straw foundation, it will never keep. You have to build from the ground up. And I, I just love that so much. And when I'm working with my clients, it's about this idea.
Mary [00:35:40]:
We, our framework is the be, do have framework. And so it starts with like, who do you want to be to create who do you want to be? Right? Like, so do you want to be the woman who just knows her worth, who doesn't have to, who is unapologetic about her worth and goes after whatever she wants and you know, puts herself out there without worrying about being too much. And then what are the, you're, you're talking about these habits. What are the aligned action steps that you have to take? What aligned action steps would she take? Right. And then, and then the having. For me, that's where all that mindset work is. Because I think that you can start taking that action right away. But if your mindset is not on board, you will self sabotage.
Mary [00:36:26]:
You will hold yourself back. An opportunity for the sale will be right in front of your face and you won't take it because your mindset is not on board.
Kristin Reed [00:36:35]:
So, and a client or potential Client can sniff that from a mile away. Right. Like, you're not confident in your offer. So I'm gonna be like, I'm not either then. Right? Yeah. Often say that to clients. It's not a matter of when it gets hard or if it gets hard. It's a matter of when it gets hard.
Kristin Reed [00:36:51]:
So when it gets hard and you're faced with, you know, the, I don't know, the buffet on vacation or, you know, all these things, what will you do? And that's just a silly example because obviously with health and wellness, there's lots of more important examples than that. But. But just, you know, it runs the spectrum. And what will you do? Right. Coming back to our why. Why is this important to me? Why not throw in the towel? Why not stay where I was? Why not day 60 pounds heavier? Or with all these diagnoses and feeling like stuck in this phase of life, why. Why do you want to move forward? Coming back to that as part of our mindset, that keeps you fueled. That keeps you wanting to put one foot in front of the other every time.
Mary [00:37:34]:
Yeah, I love that. And then that's where I say and reach it. What's the protocol? Like, I work with. On protocols a lot with my clients of like, oh, you're finding yourself in burnout again. What's our protocol? Up you're headed into. You're not doing the thing you said you were going to do. What's the protocol? And then that protocol is the checking back in with the who do you want to be? What is your why? And what are the. What are the different habits? Whether that's a quick EFT tapping session, whether that's a journaling session, whether that's put on some subliminal messaging.
Mary [00:38:05]:
Yeah, all of that stuff is super important. Yeah.
Kristin Reed [00:38:08]:
I love that. And I appreciate that we have very similar values on that and that it's not just the what to do, but it's the how and the why. And I really think that that's the game changer for transformation for my clients, and I think your clients, too, is like, understanding the why and the how behind it. Because that gives it so much more meat and so much more like body and life to it, versus me just handing you a PDF and saying, okay, here's what to eat, here's not what to eat, here's how to move your body, here's a plan. It's so much more than that and so much more comprehensive, and that's what we need.
Mary [00:38:44]:
Yeah. And I think that I just want to say that anybody who thinks that's what you actually, that's what you need is just a PDF with the road map and the checklist. We're telling you that's not what, that's not going to get you the, to the solution that you desire. And be there. Yeah, exactly, exactly. If it was that easy, you'd already be there. If it was just check, check, check, check, then that you'd already be there if it wasn't about getting uncomfortable. And I had, my cousin said this to me once and she said, of course it's not easy.
Mary [00:39:16]:
If it was, everybody would be doing it.
Kristin Reed [00:39:19]:
That's so true. That's so true. Yeah. And that's what keeps me in business, unfortunately, is we can Google and podcast and chat GPT our way into what to eat or what to do, what to, blah, blah, blah. But it doesn't actually teach us like the innate internal skills to be able to handle what's, what's going on for our unique body. And so, yeah, to your point, that's the real, like, secret sauce. There is, is understanding, going deep, doing like that hard work, and that's where the change happens.
Mary [00:39:51]:
And not doing the hard work alone. You don't have to do it alone. And I, and this is why I invest in coaches, too. Yes, we have blinders on. We don't always want to see the truth. We don't always want to see how we're the problem. And so part of enrolling with a coach is that they are there to see what you cannot see, to hold that space for you, to hold that uncomfortable space for you and to tell you the things that maybe you're missing because you don't want to see it or you can't see it or it's hard to reflect that back to yourself because I'd like to say that I'm pretty open and willing to see my shit and yet I still need somebody to reflect back to me for sure.
Kristin Reed [00:40:39]:
Yeah, we're human. I think, you know, as humans, it's so much easier to put the blame on someone else. That's what we want to do. Right? We want to protect ourselves. And so to have someone be able to, like you said, call you out on your, Put the real life in front of you and be a reflection back to you, there's nothing like that. I think that's priceless. Yeah.
Mary [00:40:57]:
Oh, love it. Okay, do you have any last minute advice for anybody who's listening? And then tell everybody how they can follow you, work with you, all the things and we'll put all the links in the show notes below. So last minute advice and how they can connect and work with you.
Kristin Reed [00:41:14]:
Thank you so much. Last minute advice would be, you are so important. I think you know, your health is your biggest asset, your well being. So making the investment in yourself is something that you'll never regret. You're very, you're worth that. So tying that together with your voice being heard, sharing your truth. Right. So stepping into this next level of yourself is something that I encourage all women to do.
Kristin Reed [00:41:40]:
But especially if you're in that midlife period, there's so much more out there for you and I'd love to support you. So that's, that's my kind of advice, is that it's not over. You're worth it, you're worth investing in.
Mary [00:41:50]:
And you're just getting started.
Kristin Reed [00:41:52]:
Just getting started. Yes. Where I can be found. So I'm nursing your way to wellness on Instagram and Facebook and my website is nursingyourwaytowellness.com. you can find free resources there to help you with your health and wellness. You can book a complimentary call with me. We can just talk about how I can support you, answer any questions you have and feel free to DM me. I love just chatting with women and supporting you.
Kristin Reed [00:42:18]:
So if you listen to this and you have questions, you want to just chat about something, I'm always an open book and my, my DMS are always open for you.
Mary [00:42:28]:
Oh, I love that so much. So I will have the links in the show notes below that you can find. Kristen, thank you so much. This was so good.
Kristin Reed [00:42:37]:
It was such going. Yeah, I know. It's such a pleasure. Thank you so much for having me.
Mary [00:42:42]:
Of course.
